Go Easy On Yourself

Spend some one-on-one time with a loved one, at least once a week. The more you repeat something to yourself, and the more emotionally charged it is, the stronger that belief will be and the deeper it will sink in. As you make the choice to honor your spiritual standards …

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The Summer Of 1975

It needs to be challenging - something that requires your full attention is best, and not something that only challenges you a little bit, but needs constant mental effort. Using our current bad habit as a base, we can choose to replace our response with a similar one that's closer to …

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Standing Up For Docility

Under lip: Indent above your chin and below your bottom lip Bouncing may not be your cup of tea, but when you're determined, you can always find a way to make money. Because the demands were unrelenting, she never really knew how to turn off that stress alert response. Never …

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Put It On A Plate, Sit Down

This includes items such as citrus fruits tasty, fried chicken and, ugh, along with much more white wine--. There are so many resources online that offer financial advice that can be helpful, but complicated. We were never allowed to have them. Despite our best intentions, the things we do--both subtle …

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Crying When You Need To

People with BPD fail to understand and appreciate interpersonal boundaries like the ones we describe in the preceding story. Sudden attraction, yearning, a mutual spark--these are all true on the level of human feeling, on the level of the soul. This condition is common with a right-sided brain injury. The …

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Another Obstacle To Compromise

If you watch babies or puppies, you will notice that they breathe almost solely with their bellies--the most efficient way to breathe. These include legumes, avocados, almonds, cashews, bananas, and fatty fish like salmon. For their medical expertise, I am appreciative to but do not hold accountable: Jason Barritt, PhD …

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Looking Through Others' Lens To Enhance Happiness

You may have used this little warning tag before the stroke too. You may have heard that this is necessary for couples following an argument, but I would argue (no pun intended) that a repair is necessary for any group of people--friends or family--following a conflict to move forward. Hence …

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Always Consider The Source

Dusk and dawn simulation has already been studied extensively in the lab and in clinical settings, and the results are often astonishing. If a doctor makes a wrong diagnosis, it could lead to serious health consequences or even death. This is important, because when your biological clocks get out of …

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Did You Frequently Hear Them Arguing?

Look at the experiences of Middle Easterners and people of the Islamic faith. Basically, this new science created a separation of human spiritual and emotional dimensions from the physical body. I believe this tragedy has changed many lives for the better, as individuals are now choosing a more loving, compassionate …

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The Energy Body

The therapist is asking the question without humour or irony and yet I laugh explosively in response. In the span of a single generation, dogs have become family members. How you act with friends is likely different than how you act with parents and other family members, or coworkers on …

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Need For Cognition And Self-Monitoring

According to Swami Satchidananda, when one is established in the practice of truthfulness, actions and reactions bend to his will. After his mother lost her job during the Depression, Fred remembered a house so cold they all huddled near the potbelly stove that warmed only part of one room; You …

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Own Your Body

He had then recalled for the first time that he had always had this sexual feeling at precisely such an abortively creative moment. I look at the glycohemoglobin (amount of glucose in the blood) and the post-prandial glucose (blood sugar level in a patient after he or she has eaten …

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Above All, Take It A Step At A Time

Refocusing her efforts and being mindful to choose activities as well as looking for qualities and values in others similar to hers, Eve was successful over the next few months at beginning a friendship with a mom she met at a school event and joining a walking group. It's also …

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Common Responses To Enjoyment

It's too inconvenient to go out somewhere to exercise. Bill Gates and Paul Allen would be the first to make that software, and their BASIC program became the first innovation sold by the Microsoft Corporation. The natural sound source of water creates a relatively uniform sound that is not easily …

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Filter Out Self Determination

In this way, visualization can help promote relaxation and healing. It would be like a drug trip where you have this mind-blowing experience but then you can't integrate the new way of seeing and understanding into your life. However, it's not a good use of time and energy if you …

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Make Time For Alliance Today

The birth of an infant to an enslaved mother provided, over time, additional free labor to the slaveowners. While I'd experienced something similar with my writing on occasion--when something outside of myself takes over--this was the first time I'd experienced it with a speech. We are supported, cradled, and inspired …

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Can You Help Like A True Champ?

She was brave and she sought the job she felt her skills deserved. In 1994, Jeffrey Friedman, MD, PhD, and his colleagues at Rockefeller University discovered this peptide and named it appropriately leptin, from the Greek word for thin, leptos . They heaped slander and accusation on his sorrow, blaming him …

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Common Responses To Concurrence

If God is God, God will understand, too, and not love you any less for it, either. Narcissism has been known for many years, and its essence originates in ancient Greece. In the business world, people use the head shrug to offer submissive apology that saves you from being belittled …

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Surrender The One-Up Relationship

How was I supposed to stand on a narrow plank amid all this movement, change, and turmoil--with the sky above, the water below, my child pulling on my hand, history and family calling to me from behind, my friends racing on ahead--and be happy? In this instance, I felt the …

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Changing Gears That Grind

' Almost immediately a second force will appear to test our resolve. I've been a hiring manager for roles that received five hundred applications for a single opening. The crowds that gathered to look at it were awestruck--its size, the impetuous stance of the horse that the artist had captured, its …

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How To Pace Yourself

One questionable decision followed another during the confused aftermath of what I saw as my abandonment, and within a couple of years, I found myself on the Gulf Coast, without a home, a vehicle, or the financial means to obtain either. Even though these events were always beautiful and exciting …

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Being Listened To

I work from home, so sometimes instead of making my meals in my kitchen, and because I can afford to do so, I tend to go for a walk to somewhere in my neighborhood for food. They can be caring, well-intentioned, and thoughtful. So if people are faster at answering …

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